Tips & Advice


Using a Wedding Planner

Tips of the week - by Nina Callaway
Nina Callaway is a writer and event planner who has guided many couples through the complicated, yet rewarding process of wedding planning. She's has been the weddings guide for About.com since 2003. Nina has the following advice for couples tying the knot.

1) Invitation etiquette
Once upon a time, there wasn't much variation in wedding invitations. These days, with blended families, untraditional families, and any and all of the above helping to pay for it,the traditional "request the honor of your presence at the marriage" gives way to something like "invite you to be a special part of the wedding of" or even "Come laugh, dance, dine, and celebrate our wedding".

2) Choosing a Colour Scheme for your wedding
Most people base their wedding colors on a favorite shade or favorite flower. You’ll want to choose one primary and one or two accents. Choose a colour that suits your personaility - don’t just do pastels because because someone suggests it. Think about what you wear normally in your clothing and the shades you’ve used to decorate your home. These are probably colors you are comfortable around already.

3) Don't sweat the small stuff
A wedding is full of thousands of details and there are bound to be a few snags along the way. Keep in mind the reason you are doing all of this- it's not to have the perfect cake baker, who is now too overbooked to make your cake. It's to celebrate your love together, which you could do in a mud puddle, if you had to.

4) Take time to savor your wedding
So many couples report that their wedding was a whirlwind that they barely remember. Consider building in time for reflection- whether it's a scheduled time between ceremony and reception where the two of you will enjoy a glass of champagne, or the moment when you change into your getaway clothes. Talk to each other during the reception about what you are enjoying and who you've talked to. That evening, take a few moments to write down what you remembered about the day.

5) Infuse your personality
Don't have a cookie-cutter wedding. Think about your hobbies, cherished memories, and personalities. If you love to travel, consider naming tables after places you've visited together. If you are a fishing aficionado, consider fishbowls with live fish in them as centerpieces. Your wedding will be a thousand times more special and memorable.

6) Don't always follow tradition
Don't spend money on things just because you think they're traditional. If you don't really want it, don't do it. A great example of this is the custom of using both an inner and outer envelope for a wedding invitation. Many couples these days are forgoing this option in favor of more modern and cost-efficient invites.

7) Have a wedding you can afford
Rather than accruing massive wedding debt, pay for it as you go along. The number one thing couples fight about, according to psychologists and couples therapists, is money. You don't want to start off married life with a monkey on your back. A big formal wedding is nice for those who can afford it, but you don't need to "keep up with the Joneses" at the expense of your future happiness.

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